Reinventing Yourself

Sergio was told at an early age that he was to be a dentist, just like his father.  He was pushed to go to his father’s office after school to watch as his father worked, and his family gave him money only to go to dental school.  Sergio followed in his father’s footsteps and became a partner at his father’s business.  He spent his days mainly filling teeth and straightening teeth.

After 12 years as a dentist, Sergio was bored.  Dentistry held no interest for him anymore.  It wasn’t challenging, and he just didn’t enjoy the work.  He realized it was time to reinvent himself, and he became a veterinarian instead. Continue reading

Time is Change

Don’t stop!  Time is change — time again to rearrange.  Time to find those changes in your life!

You don’t have to wait until you’re totally ready to make the changes in your life to have greater self-confidence.  As long as you move forward step by step, you’re making progress.  The time is now to begin that first step!

Listen to me sing this beautiful song, and imagine yourself making the changes you need to live a life full of confidence and strength.

 

Effect of Facebook on Our Minds – Video

If you spend a lot of time on Facebook or other social media, you may experience low self-confidence if you see negative posts or don’t get as many “Likes” or have as many “Shares” as you wish you had or as many as your friends have.  Or do all your friends look like they have a wonderful life and you know you don’t?  If so, check out my online course Stop Being a Doormat and Start Using Your Personal Power to Build Healthy Relationships to learn how to get your Facebook habit under control and build your self-confidence.

Watch this video about how Facebook can affect your mind.

5 Habits That Can Boost Your Self-Esteem

Some people think it’s so difficult to increase their self-esteem, so they never even try.  But there are some simple things you can do that can boost your self-esteem and self-confidence that don’t take a lot of time or effort.

Just because you’re experiencing low self-esteem now doesn’t mean have to be that way forever. Low self-esteem is something that most likely started a long time ago, and it is something you CAN change.   If you want to work on increasing your overall self-esteem, try these five habits and, over time, you’ll see you have a new attitude.

Write in a Journal

Do you like to write about yourself?  If so, writing in a journal can help enhance your sense of self-esteem.  What can you write about that lifts your spirits the most?  Try these and see what happens: Continue reading

4 Myths About Self-Confidence

Many people believe a number of myths about self-confidence.  They’ve heard these myths from relatives or friends, or perhaps they’ve read them in books or in articles.

These myths can be very damaging because they keep people from developing their self-confidence.  They make people feel they can’t move forward, they can’t grow, and they can’t become who they dream to be.

Let’s review these myths and why they’re patently untrue.

Myth 1:  Self-Confidence is
Determined at Birth  
One of the foremost myths about self-confidence is that people are either born with it or not, that it can’t be acquired.  People with high self-confidence don’t have to develop it, and it comes naturally to them.  There’s nothing a person can do to cultivate self-confidence, so they’re forever going to have to live with the low self-confidence they were born with. Continue reading

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

If you look at yourself often in the mirror, what are you actually doing?  There’s more to it than just seeing yourself.  There’s observing how you look, comparing yourself with other people, and using self-talking – often negative – to evaluate yourself.  All of these can be problematic and lead to low self-confidence.

Riana’s Thoughts About Her Body
Let’s consider Riana.  Riana can only think negative thoughts about her body.  When she gets ready for work, she looks at herself in the mirror and says, “Why can’t I lose weight?  If I could get rid of this stomach, I’d be able to finally be happy.  I should start exercising today – or tomorrow.”  On her way from the parking lot to her office, she passes a business and can see her reflection in the window.  “Oh, my goodness!  I sure look horrible today!” is the first thing that comes to her mind. Continue reading

Do You Love Your Body?

Girls today are constantly facing bullying over social media that directly lead to damaging their confidence about their body, which leads to lower self-esteem.  They feel shamed that they don’t look like the other women they see on social media.  Not only that, they read the many body-shaming comments that cyber-bullying and Internet trolling contain.

If they don’t have the perfect body, if they need to lose weight, if their curves are in the wrong place, they try to fit a standard of beauty that everyone wants them to look like.  They go on diet after diet, they put themselves down with their self-talk, they don’t go out because they think others are laughing at them.  They may even have anxiety and depression that rules their lives. Continue reading