Sergio was told at an early age that he was to be a dentist, just like his father. He was pushed to go to his father’s office after school to watch as his father worked, and his family gave him money only to go to dental school. Sergio followed in his father’s footsteps and became a partner at his father’s business. He spent his days mainly filling teeth and straightening teeth.
After 12 years as a dentist, Sergio was bored. Dentistry held no interest for him anymore. It wasn’t challenging, and he just didn’t enjoy the work. He realized it was time to reinvent himself, and he became a veterinarian instead.
It takes courage to reinvent yourself, and it takes honesty – honesty with yourself and honesty with those you’re close to. You know it’s time to move up to a higher level or go onto a whole new path when your old identity doesn’t work for you anymore and your heart is heavy.
What holds most of us back from making a new beginning is the inertia of life itself. If you’re living a relatively comfortable life, if you’re making an ok living at an ok job and your relationships are ok, this can lead to lethargy and a willingness to keep right on doing what you’ve been doing.
Wake up! If you’ve wondered “Why am I living like this?” then the time has come to choose a new life for yourself – whether it’s a new career, a move to a new location, new relationships, different activities, or totally new behaviors. There are options and opportunities open to you, if only you’ll open to them. There’s no reason to stay stuck forever in something you’re bored with or miserable doing.
Reinventing yourself can be exhilarating and frightening all at the same time. Here are some tips to help you on your way:
- Make a plan. Look at the steps you need to take to make the change. Look at what it will take to get there. Do you need more education? Do research? Take a vacation in a new town to move to? Network with others about a new career? Save money?
- Go at your own pace. You may want to change quickly or go slowly. Honor your own timing.
- Consider taking interim steps. You may want to try another job in the same industry you’re currently in or use the skills you have now to go into a similar industry. You may want to build new friendships before letting go of ones that don’t serve you.
- Don’t allow others to talk you out of changing. Others will need to adjust to the new you, and you’ll need to be patient with them.
As Sergio discovered, it’s never too late to reinvent yourself, so take action!
Think about what you would really like to be – no excuses, no limitations. Make a list of three steps you can take in the next 30 days to bring you closer to that.