Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

If you look at yourself often in the mirror, what are you actually doing?  There’s more to it than just seeing yourself.  There’s observing how you look, comparing yourself with other people, and using self-talking – often negative – to evaluate yourself.  All of these can be problematic and lead to low self-confidence.

Riana’s Thoughts About Her Body
Let’s consider Riana.  Riana can only think negative thoughts about her body.  When she gets ready for work, she looks at herself in the mirror and says, “Why can’t I lose weight?  If I could get rid of this stomach, I’d be able to finally be happy.  I should start exercising today – or tomorrow.”  On her way from the parking lot to her office, she passes a business and can see her reflection in the window.  “Oh, my goodness!  I sure look horrible today!” is the first thing that comes to her mind. Continue reading

3 Tips for Self-Confidence

We all want to feel confident as much as possible.  And there are some simple ways to do just that.  Follow these three tips, and you’ll notice your self-confidence start to soar.

Do What Makes You Stand Out
What makes you unique?  What can you do that puts you above most other people?  Is it singing?  Giving a presentation?  Fixing machines?  Dancing?  Find 2-3 things that make you shine and that you know you can succeed in and consistently do these things to make you look good and build your confidence. Continue reading

Actions You Can Take to Increase Your Confidence at Work

Both competence and confidence are essential in the workplace.  Only when you have both in abundance will you become successful in your career and achieve your dreams.  You don’t need to have a complete makeover to become more confident.  Instead, you can take small steps to boost your self-assuredness and self-esteem.

Here are some strategic actions you can take: Continue reading

Confidence in Children vs. Teenagers

Why is there a difference in how confident young children and teenagers are?  If you’ve ever watched young children, most are very confident about themselves.  Instead of humble responses that teenagers give when they receive a compliment, children will say “I know” or “Yeah, isn’t that great?”  Young children accept praise easily and revel in the positive attention.

Most children are more assertive and speak up for themselves.  I’ve heard children say their school is too easy and they want harder classes with more challenging work.  They’re also quick to speak up if they’re sick or shoes are too tight.  Teenagers many times don’t want to seem as though they’re different from the pack, so they keep quiet and ignore what they’re really feeling. Continue reading