Both competence and confidence are essential in the workplace. Only when you have both in abundance will you become successful in your career and achieve your dreams. You don’t need to have a complete makeover to become more confident. Instead, you can take small steps to boost your self-assuredness and self-esteem.
Here are some strategic actions you can take:
Whoever you would like as your mentor, research their work, strengths, weaknesses, and achievements and consider whether you’re compatible. If you believe so, then seek them out. Ask for an informal meeting, such as having coffee or tea. Have some questions prepared to help the conversation along. Afterwards, evaluate the conversation to decide if you felt there was a connection and encouraged by this person. If not, don’t pursue the mentorship.
If you feel comfortable at your first meeting, follow up immediately and ask the person if they would like to get together again. You can explain that you’re looking for a mentor and would like to talk with them about it. If this person seems eager to meet with you, then it’s time to start the conversation on how the mentoring would look like. Don’t push it too much; let it organically grow over time as you trust and respect each other.
You can celebrate in several ways, such as:
- taking a long bubble bath
- getting a massage
- going to a movie you’ve wanted to see
- buying yourself that new outfit or suit you’ve been eyeing
Celebrating your accomplishments and treating yourself to something special will give you the motivation to continue on your path to success and enhance your self-confidence that you’re doing a great job.
Does this sound like you? If so, it’s time to take control of your work day.
Arrive first thing in the morning and close your office door to do your most important work first. Turn off your phone or ask your secretary to take all your calls. Once you’ve finished with these most important tasks, you can return the calls.
Unless you need it for work conversations, don’t answer your cellphone until all your most important tasks are finished. The best thing to do is to put it in your desk so you’re not tempted to answer it every time it rings. Decide on a time during the day when you’ll answer e-mails and text messages, and give those your full attention when you do.
Get up and walk around to take a break from your work. Or close your eyes for 10 or 15 minutes after four to six hours of work to take a mental break. This can actually increase your productivity and sense of well-being.
As you organize your day and accomplish especially your most important tasks, your confidence that you can handle anything that arises during the day will grow. Changing your workplace experience is generally not difficult. It takes planning and small, consistent steps.
My online course How to Be Successful at Work will give you the skills that will empower you to take charge of your work life. If you want to be seen as a first-rate employee or boss, I can help you. Be the success you were meant to be and turn fear into confidence. It’s time to invest in your future!